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Selfishness or Self Care?

Live Your Dreams, Personal Development, Travel / By

Floripa Surf House – Sicily
11th July 2016

Selfishness – to take care of oneself

Serving myself over others/the planet/my partner is regularly a challenge

Today I am asking for a room change on arrival because I wanted somewhere quiet and empty, a fear of judging as her face and attitude became grumpy and she advised a 60 year old was there.

Flickers of self judgement, pain and nervousness, seeing the judgement reflected back from the retreat owner but a phone call later and her boyfriend advised to not offer the others both rooms just move me where I want to go.
So I am quiet, and the 60 year old is close to the restaurant for her ease. All in all, everyone is a winner.

When met on arrival with loud music playing from speakers on the side of my room, mess all around and talk of movies and music on the veranda directly outside my room, which was flanked with a pinball machine and a football table my ideas of a quiet retreat went out the window.
Faced with myself and what I had called in for myself.

Do I speak up, or make excuses and leave.
I made excuses. About wanting to go up Etna, to leave on Wednesday, thinking then at least I only have to manage to get through 2 days there. But was ‘managing’ what I had spent days planning and organising for? NO!
I felt like crying, such a strong reaction to my own self, my own fear to speak, to serve myself.

Making do to avoid the uncomfortable

Then, what if I just ask?

I ask, I apologise (why am I apologising).

Acceptance, acceptance, understanding and love

As I sit here after the move the grass is greener thoughts pop up. Thinking of the other places I could have gone to that were ‘better’, more retreat like.
Then I remember the learnings this place has brought me already:

Focus attention and you can achieve/ You can control the physical
Focussing on calling in being here and a cancellation happens straight away

Ask for what you desire, you are worthy. And you will receive.

Face yourself with care and compassion
Love love love and understand the self’s whys.

Expressing self breeds understanding
Connection post disconnection
The owner returned to say she (the 60 year old) sounds 20 on the phone and she’s never had problems with that room, I offered gratitude and she left with a smile and an ‘enjoy’

However my want to leave on Wednesday is still present. I want to be on the volcano. I want to feel the power.

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